A.J. Carter

Perhaps the most disheartening part of going through a breakup is discovering that attraction is not a switch you can flip, even if you want it to be. Attraction isn’t something that can be forced. It’s not something you can convince someone about. It’s not something that will automatically spring forth just because time has … Read more

The intention when somebody reaches out to an ex often becomes obvious very quickly. They’re attempting to re-establish something that was valuable to them. They want to figure out where they went wrong. And, in many situations, they want a second chance at things. Even though most people trying to reach out to their ex’s … Read more

When you go no contact for a while and then consider re-connecting, you inevitably reach a moment where you have to initiate contact again. The critical decision becomes: What is the absolute first message that I should send? People often stress over this more than they have to because they feel that this single message … Read more

Getting back in touch after a breakup can feel like you’re making real progress. Messages will become easier to exchange and conversations will feel more natural, as if the distance that previously separated you is melting away. Unfortunately, along with this ease comes a natural inclination: to speed things up. This is precisely where many … Read more

When you breakup with someone one of the most confusing aspects of the whole experience is not how you’re feeling, but how they’re feeling. You get the opportunity to analyze your thoughts, emotions, and intent. He or she does not get this luxury. So, uncertainty of where he or she stands, leads to one question: … Read more

One of the hardest parts of a breakup is knowing when, or even if, to contact your ex again. For most, it’s not only about when you reach out. It’s about whether or not you’re ready. This is because while time will create distance, it won’t always create clarity. And when you lack clarity, contacting … Read more

So, after a period of no contact, the main question people always seem to want answered is: What do I say to my ex? It seems like such a simple question, but when people look at it, it suddenly gets heavy. People will spend days, weeks, and even months thinking about the “right” thing to … Read more

Almost everyone eventually wonders this after a breakup: When is it okay to talk to your ex? That question seems simple, but there’s no specific number of days or weeks you have to wait to get the answer. Most people believe that if they just wait long enough, the right time will appear. They wait, … Read more